Thursday, April 15, 2010

We are the Truth

PLEASE CONSIDER REPOSTING (OR LINKING TO) MY BLOG TODAY -- ADOPTION BLOGGER DAY!

We Are The Truth – An Adoption Blogger Day: To ensure the world knows about every successful adoption, on Thursday, April 15, 2010 blog about your adoption or the adoption of someone you know. It doesn’t matter if your adoption is with Russia, domestic or otherwise international. Let the world know your truth!

By now, if you read my blog, you know about our adoption -- the adoption of our little Isaac John. The little boy, who along with our biological son, completely changed our life forever. We have been forever changed by the opportunity to be the Daddy and Mommy of Isaac.

There are, of course, exceptions to the successful adoption story. But these are just that. Exceptions.

"We are the Truth" was begun after a little boy, Artyem, was adopted by a family in the United States and then "sent back" to Russia. It is important to understand that adoptive children have the same "percentage of problems" that biological children have. However, if an adopted child has issues it is "because he was adopted." Have you ever heard someone say, "Well, that child had a lot of problems but can you blame him? He was a biological child." Adoption becomes the "reason" even when it very well may not be. Biological parents abandon their children as well.

The outrageous treatment of Artyem by his adoptive family has rightfully resulted in outrage by the Governments of Russia and the United States and all who care about children. The tragedy has cast a light on intercountry adoption that says it is not safe, the system failed and adopted children cause insurmountable problems. The heartbreak of Artyem Saviliev’s abandonment has once again elevated a singular incident to a level which may result in the suspension of intercountry adoption. Suspending adoption, even temporarily, will only cause thousands of children to suffer the debilitating effects of life in an orphanage.

You, the community of adoptees, adoptive parents, adoptive grandparents, child welfare professionals and child advocates know that the outrageous and indefensible actions of one parent are not indicative of how children are treated by adoptive families. You know that families who encounter difficulties do not simply abandon their child. You know that help is available, that solutions are found and that families can thrive. And you know that suspending adoption does not protect children but only subjects them to the depravity of an institution…and an entire life without a family.

You, the adoption community know the truth. You live the truth. You are the truth.

Join our campaign to bring the truth to light and help children in need find a permanent and safe family.

You can help! Please:

(1) Sign the letter to President Medvedev and President Obama: The letter asks both Presidents to ensure that intercountry adoption continues uninterrupted and to aggressively investigate and prosecute anyone involved in the abuse of children. You can sign anytime, but doing so before Tuesday night would help us get the letters to both Presidents before President Medvedev leaves the U.S. Click here to sign the letter.

(2) And then PLEASE consider linking to my blog from your blog. Tell the story of our adoption of Isaac or of your adoption or of another adoption you know of! Steal a photo from my blog featuring Isaac and post it on your blog. (My only request is that you not use our last name on your blog.) Share how you have witnessed his life joining to our lives. He is a part of our family and equal to our blood child. Tell everyone who reads your blog that adoption is not what this ONE story has painted it to be. It is the exception NOT the rule.

Please help! We don't want children to be hurt by one family's mistake.

(Thank you Becky for letting me know about this!)

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think there is a misconception that the reason he had problems was because he was adopted. thats not what I get from some media outlets. I get that he had problems due to his alcoholic mother that gave him up when he was 6. He could have suffered effects of her alcohol use whilein the womb. He could be suffereing from stress that I am sure had nothing to do with another family wanting to parent him. With that said please understand I do not think what this adoptive mother did was right.

denise said...

I posted a link to your blog on Facebook :)

Jen said...

Wendi, I signed the petition just now. Thanks for spreading such an important message.