I found it incredibly spot-on.
I wish I could say I wrote it myself.
While I do, actually, feel like I get things done, I feel that these things are tiny things. I am working on Abigail's baby book. (Yes, Abigail's -- not Hannah's.) If I get two or three pages done during a day, I mark that as a day of accomplishment. My other need-to-get-done-things might include:
- reading to the kids.
- bathing the kids.
- taking the kids outside.
- getting some homeschool time in.
- spending 1-on-1 time with each of the kids.
- keeping the house semi-picked-up all day.
Often, when JB gets home, he'll ask me what we did that day.
The list is usually incredibly short. Short on things I can say with words. "We read books. We took a bath. We brushed our teeth. We ate popcorn. We played Candyland." You know, that sort of thing.
And when I tell him, he often says: "Good job."
How wonderful to hear that.
Not all Moms hear that. Many are measured, both by themselves and their spouses (and possibly others) in errands they ran, events they attended, and friends with whom they visited.
But I have been learning that trying to do those things, when you have small children at home, is probably counterproductive to the life you want to be leading with them.
While I agree that staying home feels boring and doing nothing, feels, well, like nothing, I want to encourage us all to do more of this. Our kids just want to be with us. They want you to put on music and dance in your pajamas. They want you to color with them. They want you to read to them. They want you to hold them. To snuggle under a blanket on the couch.
This article talks about that. I'd love to hear what you think about Anne Rusts' words.
Enjoy! (My favorite parts are in bold.)
"New Mamas Get Nothing Done (and Other Untruths)"
By Ann Rust