Tuesday, July 01, 2014

where is the mommy-war for the motherless child?

Recently, I've been drawn in to a sort of "campaign" that has been waging online. This campaign is designed to encourage women and not make them feel badly about their choices as moms. We all have our opinions and our advice. Breastfeed or Formula. Work or stay home. Cloth or disposable. Sleep together or sleep apart. 

You know, those types of things. 

Recently, a fantastic series of photo has emerged online encouraging women to unite and support each other instead of judging and arguing over the details.

You can see those photos by clicking here: Stop the Mommy Wars: Empowering Photo Series.

Even more powerful was an article on a blog I read now and then. This article was entitled: Where is the mommy-war for the motherless child? 

The blog author writes:

When it comes to issues of motherhood, there is one issue I care about: some kids don’t have one. All of these petty wars about the choices of capable, loving mothers is just a lot of white noise to me, Quite honestly, I’m often astonished at the non-essential parenting issues I see moms getting their panties in a wad about. Particularly when there are so many kids in this world not being parented at all.

This is the war I’ll be involved in: We, as a society, are not doing enough to protect at-risk and motherless children, both in our country and globally. 

I encourage us all to remember that what should be fighting about are the unborn and the motherless -- the children that are helpless to speak for themselves.

What we should be discussing is the number of orphans who live in America and what we, as a people, can do about it.

Just food for thought.


Anonymous said...

May I suggest it is not MOTHERS that are needed but PARENTS. Because men are proving to be excellent parents without being female and women are also being excellent parents without being daddies. Stopping Mommy wars might go better if women talked about PARENTING nor mothering.

Wendi Kitsteiner said...

Good point!

constance said...

It has been 30 years since I had the pain you shared and yet your message made it as real as if it was yesterday. Thank you for framing the frustration, fear and then the joy of what you have lived. We would not value the summer so much without the coldest winter, and so it is with the delight of our long waited-for children. Thank you for reminding us that the face of a woman may shield so much anguish. Today I will be praying for the blessings of children to be graced upon another couple and for you in your happiness and empathy.