But when it comes down to it, I have three children that are a bit on the more shy, more subdued, less outgoing side of life. While they vary when and how they do it, Isaac, Sidge, and Abigail, aren't extroverts by nature. At least not at this stage in life. (I greatly believe this can morph and change.)
Hannah. Oh Lordy. She's a whole different entity. That chick is seriously the leader of all her siblings despite being the youngest. (Okay. Yes. She's the oldest by conception date. We think it all may stem from the number of years she was frozen.)
We don't see this slight shyness as a bad thing in any sense of the word. We see this as how God made them. This is who they are. The world is made of all kinds of people, and they will not all be the same. When I see parents giving their children guilt-trips about the fact that, "I paid all this money and you are just sitting here not wanting to participate," I cringe. There is a reason that the child feels anxiety. There is a reason that they feel nervous. Yes, we must push a bit. But we must push correctly.
Sidge and Abigail need these phrases the most. I try to use these types of things often when they approach a situation that seems to big for them. As they get older we'll change how we do things, but for now, we don't force them into new situations without making sure they are ready for them. We respect that they feel the world a bit differently than one might think is the "norm."