Here's what we need to understand as parents ...

Kids are loud

They're messy.

They're all over the place.  

They're intense. 

And that's how kids are supposed to be. 

Kids are supposed to be well-behaved. 

They're supposed to basically come into this world and flail their arms and find out where the boundaries are. 

That's what kids do. 

And our job as parents is to allow them to find those boundaries safely. 

And sometimes it's hard because what kids do, is that they come into this world and they behave in ways that press our buttons. 

Because we see so much of ourselves in those children. 

What our kids need more than anythign else, is that they need to learn how to regulate. 

Most of you who don't know how to regulate, it's because your parents never demonstrated it for you. 

Because when a child is having a meltdown, what do most parents typically say? 

"Just stop it. For God's sake! Go to your room! I'm sick of hearing you carrying on. You are so dramatic! 

Whereas what that child needs in that moment is a nice, calm parent to come alongside them in the middle of the storm. 

They need that parent to get down on a knee and grab them and put their forehead against their forehead and bring them in and just hold them and say: 

"It's going to be okay."

Your calmness is your super power. Let them throw tantrums, your silence, calmness, and persistence will be the water that put them out.