They have sensation.
Before they can understand "you're okay," they feel whether you are.
If your tone is calm but your body is tight ...
If your words are soothing but your eyes are scared ...
Your child will follow the feeling, not the sentence.
They don't learn regulation through lectures.
They learn it through presence.
Through the way you breathe when they're melting down.
Through the way you return after you rupture.
When we're dysregulated, kids absorb it.
Not because we're doing something wrong -- but because we are their safety cue.
That doesn't mean you have to be calm all the time.
It means your own healing matters, because your nervous system becomes their blueprint.
And the best part?
Every moment of regulation you practice -- even if its imperfect -- is a message to you child's body that:
"It's safe to feel. I'm here with you."
Your nervous system speak louder than words.
Let is say:
"You're safe."
"You're seen."
"You don't have to carry this alone."
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