Tuesday Truth

When people ask what I've been up to, I just say "Not Much." Because, re-parenting my inner child, unlearning survival mode, breaking generational cycles, all while trying to soothe my nervous system so I don't pass down what I am still learning to heal from, feels like a lot to explain. 

The deepest wound isn't what happened

The deepest wound isn't what happened -- it's what never did. Childhood trauma isn't always what happened to you. It's also what never happened for you. Even in cases where there's other types of abuse, the deepest wound is often emotional neglect. The absence of warmth, safety, and truly being seen. Trauma isn't just about the pain you felt, it's about the love, comfort and protection you have never received. 

When a child experiences something terrifying and there's no safe adult to comfort them or be there with them, their nervous things learns 1 thing: I'm alone in this and that belief doesn't just disappear. The feeling of always having to handle things alone. The way you struggle to ask for help. The exhaustion from constantly scanning for rejection. Even when you are surrounded by people who care. That's not just the way you are! That's what happens when emotional neglect wires your nervous system for survival.

So if self love feels impossible ...

If receiving care makes you feel uncomfortable ...

If you struggle to trust even in safe relationships ...

Know this. 

You are not broken. 

Emotional neglect taught your nervous system that love was unreliable and healing is about learning what emotional presence feels like. 

It starts with noticing the patterns without shame, learning to offer yourself the care you've never received but needed, and finding space where safety and connection aren't a risk but a right.  

Tuesday Truth

 

Cycle Breaker

My therapist told me ...

My therapist told me ...

The child who had to predict everyone's mood 

became the adult who analyzes every word. 

They replay moments on loop. 

They search for signs of rejection before it happens. 

They blame theselves for things that were never theirs to carry. 

Because growing up, staying safe meant staying alert. 

But healing means learning that shouldn't feel like surveillance.

(I didn't write this. Taken from random Instagram reel.)

Tuesday Truth

 

Boom!

The first half of life is about becoming who you needed to be to survive. 

The second half is about unraveling everything that no longer aligns with you soul's purpose. 

That's not a midlife crisis -- it's a rebirth.