Another post from my mentor, Parag:
One of the most common things I see in sensitization is people trying to solve problems that don't actually exist yet.
"What
if I can't handle next week?" "What if this feeling is still here
tomorrow?" "What if my trip goes badly?" "What if I never recover?"
"What if I can't cope with what's coming?"
Notice what just happened.
The mind left reality and entered imagination.
Tomorrow
hasn't arrived. The conversation hasn't happened. The trip hasn't
started. The symptom hasn't appeared. The challenge hasn't unfolded.
Yet the nervous system is reacting as if all of it is happening right now.
A
sensitized mind is a possibility-generating machine. Its job is to scan
the future and produce scenarios. That's not the problem. The problem
begins when we treat those possibilities as realities that need to be
solved.
You don't need answers for tomorrow.
You need a response for today.
Can
you get through this moment? Can you respond to this thought? Can you
allow this feeling? Can you take the next step in front of you?
That's all life is ever asking of you.
Think
about it. Every difficult thing you've ever navigated in your life was
eventually handled in the present moment. Not in the future. Not in your
imagination. Not during the hundreds of rehearsals your mind put you
through beforehand.
You handled it when it arrived.
The
irony is that by trying to solve tomorrow, we often miss today
entirely. We sacrifice the only moment where we actually have influence
in exchange for trying to control a moment that doesn't even exist.
So
when you catch yourself planning, predicting, analyzing, preparing,
rehearsing, and problem-solving for a future that hasn't unfolded yet,
pause.
Come back to now.
Today
has enough opportunities for courage. Today has enough opportunities
for responding. Today has enough opportunities for living.
Let tomorrow introduce itself when it gets here.
Your job is to lead yourself through today.
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