tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14468282.post7065569821230346951..comments2024-03-13T03:59:42.108-05:00Comments on Daily Blog: PerspectiveWendi Kitsteinerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05515018912328000746noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14468282.post-72293789592956106332012-11-30T19:17:09.011-06:002012-11-30T19:17:09.011-06:00Oh my word, Wendy! We never did IVF without kids ...Oh my word, Wendy! We never did IVF without kids so I can't really relate to that part, but I had to smile when I read your description of trying to do your shots with abigail there. There would be moments when I would be in the bathroom trying to give myself shots with the kids banging on the door to come in... I would find myself asking if this really was my life- in the best possible way!! Sorry so many of the emotions are the same this time around, but so glad you can do it surrounded with little ones this time around!<br /><br />Kristen Kristennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14468282.post-15188952643191456842012-11-29T21:14:39.273-06:002012-11-29T21:14:39.273-06:00I am sad that you are having such a rough time rig...I am sad that you are having such a rough time right now with the IVF stuff, but Praise God that He is able to use this to further help you to come alongside the hurting!Joiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14004963624634824423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14468282.post-20806109369632922322012-11-29T06:48:29.942-06:002012-11-29T06:48:29.942-06:00Helping someone or walking alongside someone suffe...Helping someone or walking alongside someone suffering from even situational depression can be difficult, make the relationship feel very one-sided, a "heavy load", and stressful. Rescuing them or constantly asking what's wrong is not helpful. Balance is the key. Give yourself enough space for your own well being, set your needs from them aside completely for a time and just walk alongside and be a friend. As you take care of yourself, you inadvertently empower them that they're stronger and more capable than they may feel.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14008433487392039476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14468282.post-17619902503783093222012-11-29T06:30:39.147-06:002012-11-29T06:30:39.147-06:00As part of your education - I wonder if some helpf...As part of your education - I wonder if some helpful hints on supporting someone dealing w/anxiety and depression would also be helpful on your blog. Here is some of what I found, just from a quick google search:<br />Provide emotional support. What a person suffering from depression needs most is compassion and understanding. Insinuating that they "snap out of it", "lighten up" or "think about the positive" are awful things to say. The best things to say are, "How can I help you?" or "I'm here for you. I won't leave you to face this on your own."l.<br />Provide physical support. Participate with your friend or loved one in low-stress activities such as taking a walk, watching a movie, or going out to eat somewhere nice (often they won't want to eat at all, but they might eat good food). In some cases you can ease the depressed person’s burden by helping with the small things— running errands, shopping for food and necessities, cooking, cleaning, etc. If it is appropriate, actual physical contact, and affection: a friendly hug, a friendly kiss, brushing patient's hair, massage neck and shoulders, etc. can be strong encouragement. Quite simply, it "feels good", and makes the subject feel worthy of affection.<br />Hold on to the possibility that your loved one will get better, even if he or she does not believe it.<br />Don’t try to talk the depressed person out of his or her feelings. The depressed person’s feelings may be irrational, but telling them they are wrong or arguing with them is not the way to go. Instead, you might try saying, "I’m sorry that you’re feeling bad. What can I do to help?"<br />Step back every so often. You may become frustrated when your well-meaning advice and reassurance are met with sullenness and resistance. Please don’t take your loved one’s pessimism personally— it’s a symptom of the illness. Direct your frustration at the illness, not the person.<br />Communicate with other people in the person's support network. Then you will be working as part of a team—and be encouraged that you are not alone. Be careful when you tell other people about the person's depression. People can be judgmental if they do not understand the issue fully, so choose carefully as to whom you tell.<br />Take good care of yourself. It is easy to get wrapped up in your friend’s problems and lose sight of yourself. You may also experience “contagious depression,” or you may get your own issues triggered. Recognize that your feelings of frustration, helplessness, and anger are perfectly normal.<br />Stay in contact. Call them on the phone, write an encouraging card or letter, or visit them in their home. They will know that you care if you do things like this. It tells the person that you are willing to stick by them no matter what.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14008433487392039476noreply@blogger.com